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You know that feeling when something just doesn’t fit anymore? A job, a belief, a relationship, a version of yourself you’ve been clinging to out of habit or obligation. It doesn’t feel right, but walking away feels terrifying. That space between no longer and not yet? That’s the liminal zone. It’s uncomfortable as fuck, and if you’re anything like me, you’ve probably tried to ignore it at least once or twice.
But here’s the truth: you’re allowed to outgrow your old life. And tarot can help you figure out what the hell to do next. That’s why I want to talk about something I see again and again in my readings: tarot and transitions, and how it helps you get honest when everything’s shifting.
Outgrowing Your Old Life Doesn’t Make You Ungrateful
Letting Go of What Once Saved You
Leaving the church was probably one of the hardest transitions I’ve ever made. It wasn’t just a Sunday thing for me, I was all in. I worked for the church, I led small groups, I even was on the road to getting ordained. It was my world. And for a while, it made sense. It gave me structure, certainty, a place to belong. It gave me a story I could hook my life onto.
But over time, that story started feeling too small. The answers that used to comfort me just made me restless. The certainty that once grounded me began to feel like a cage. And I remember sitting in a service, during a weekend retreat, and just… cracking open. Not in a dramatic way, but in a quiet, deep, fuck-this-noise kind of way. Like I’d finally admitted to myself that I wasn’t coming back.
And the weirdest part was, I still felt guilty. Like I owed something to the community, to the belief system, to that younger version of me who had found so much meaning there. It took me ages to accept that I could appreciate what it gave me and still choose to walk away. That I could outgrow it and not be a terrible person.
That’s the thing about outgrowing your old life: it doesn’t mean it was all bad.
It just means you’re not that person anymore.
Change Isn’t Betrayal, It’s Alignment
We’re taught to associate change with flakiness, with failure. But honestly, staying somewhere you don’t belong? That’s the real betrayal. Not just to the people around you, but to yourself.
I’ve seen this same pattern show up with so many clients. People who feel stuck in relationships, careers, belief systems, even identities, not because they love them, but because they feel like leaving would mean they were ungrateful or disloyal or just… wrong. As if growing is a betrayal instead of a natural, necessary thing.
The thing is, alignment doesn’t always look shiny or peaceful. Sometimes it looks like losing your shit and letting the whole house of cards fall. Sometimes it looks like saying no to things you used to fight for. And sometimes it looks like choosing yourself, even when nobody claps for it.
How Tarot Helps During Transitions
Tarot as a Mirror Not a Map
Tarot isn’t here to tell you exactly what to do. It’s not a prescription. It’s a mirror. And when you’re in the middle of a transition, when the old stuff doesn’t fit and the new stuff hasn’t formed yet.
That mirror can be brutally clarifying.
It reflects what you’ve been avoiding. It shows you what you’re carrying. And sometimes it says the thing you’ve been too scared to say out loud: “You already know.”
In my own life, tarot helped me put language to the things I could only feel. It’s like it gave shape to the fog. When I was questioning my gender, my career path, my sense of identity after getting diagnosed as autistic and ADHD, tarot helped me sit in the mess without needing to solve it immediately. It made the chaos feel purposeful. It helped me trust myself again.
Tarot for Life Changes: What It Actually Helps With
I’ve done thousands of readings now, and there’s a pattern. The people who come to me during life transitions?
They’re not broken.
They’re becoming.
They’re usually standing at a threshold, trying to figure out if they’re allowed to cross it.
Using tarot for life changes isn’t just about predicting the future. It’s about helping you make sense of the present. It’s especially helpful during:
- Career changes, especially when a job used to define your worth, but now just drains you
- Relationship shifts, including breakups, ethical non-monogamy, or just recognising emotional disconnection
- Exploring or affirming your gender identity and stepping into something more aligned
- Letting go of religious structures and reimagining spirituality
- Navigating neurodivergent self-understanding and what that means for daily life
The cards don’t magically tell you what to do. But they do help you zoom out, see the bigger picture, and reconnect with your own authority.
Cards That Say It’s Time to Move On
Tarot Cards That Symbolise Change and Endings
There are some cards that, when they show up, basically tap you on the shoulder and say, “Oi, something needs to shift.”
Ten of Swords: This is the burnout card. It’s the moment when pretending everything’s fine is more painful than admitting it’s not. It’s done. It’s over. Let it die.
Ten of Wands: You’re carrying too much. Often this comes up when someone is martyring themselves in a job or relationship or identity that’s slowly crushing them. The burden isn’t worth it.
Death: No, not literal death. But the kind of deep, cellular transformation that comes when you finally let something end. This is compost energy. What’s dying is becoming fuel for something new.
Wheel of Fortune: Everything is seasonal. This card is the reminder that you’re not meant to stay in one place forever. When it turns up, something’s shifting, ready or not.
Judgement: This one’s loud. It’s about hearing the call to step into a truer version of yourself. You’ve been through the fire. Now rise.
The World: Completion. Integration. The end of a chapter that’s taught you something vital. You’re ready to begin again.
Why We Often Resist What the Cards Show Us
It’s wild how often people know what needs to happen, and still fight it. I’ve done it. I’ve had readings where I knew the message, felt it in my gut, and still clung to the familiar chaos because it felt safer than the unknown.
The cards don’t push. But they do persist. They hold up the truth again and again until you’re ready to see it. And they do it without judgement, which is more than I can say for most people.
Standing in the Liminal Space and What the Fuck to Do With It
Liminal Space Tarot: You’re Not Stuck, You’re Between Versions of You
Liminal space is the weirdest. You’re not who you were, but you’re not yet who you’re becoming. You’ve shed your skin but haven’t grown a new one. It’s itchy. It’s awkward. It’s deeply uncomfortable.
But it’s also holy ground. It’s where the real work happens. The becoming. The slow rebuilding. The quiet integration.
In my experience, this space is often where people try to rush.
They want answers.
Certainty.
A five-step plan.
But transformation doesn’t work like that. You can’t rush your way into a new identity. You have to become it, moment by messy moment.
That’s what liminal space tarot holds space for. It doesn’t demand clarity. It offers companionship.
When You’re Ready to Get Unstuck
When I created the Liminal Lobotomy reading, I did it for people standing right where I’d stood: knee-deep in uncertainty, holding pieces of a life that no longer made sense.
This reading isn’t soft and fluffy. It’s not about comfort. It’s about clarity. It’s for when you need to get the noise out of your head and make sense of what’s shifting underneath. When you’re in the thick of the fuck-it-all energy and don’t know where to land.
I don’t offer answers. But I do offer insight. And if you’re ready to meet yourself honestly, I’ll sit with you in the chaos and help you hear what’s really going on. You can book that here.
Final Thoughts: You’re Allowed to Move On
You don’t owe anyone your old life. Not your job. Not your ex. Not the church. Not the version of yourself that got you this far.
You’re allowed to shift. You’re allowed to change your mind. You’re allowed to walk away from what no longer fits and trust that you’re not abandoning anything, you’re becoming more yourself.
Transitions are messy. But they’re also sacred. And working with tarot and transitions, doesn’t give you the answers, they give you yourself. And that’s where it all starts.
So if you’re reading this and wondering if it’s time to let go?
It probably is.
And that’s not failure.
That’s growth.
